POSTING NUDES DOES NOT MEAN YOU LACK SELF RESPECT.
POSTING PROVOCATIVE IMAGES DOES NOT MEAN YOU LACK SELF RESPECT.
POSTING SKIN DOES NOT MEAN YOU LACK SELF RESPECT.
POSTING SEXUAL IMAGES OF YOURSELF DOES NOT MEAN YOU LACK SELF RESPECT.
YOU CAN RESPECT YOUR BODY AND FEEL GOOD ABOUT IT AND SHARE IT WITH WHOMEVER YOU WISH, AND THAT IS NOT A BAD THING.
No one has the right to tell you that their life is harder than yours. No one has the right to invalidate your struggles because they “got through it just fine.” No one has the right to tell you to suck it up because other people have it “worse.” Hardships are not comparable. Your struggles are real, legitimate, and just as difficult as anyone else’s
This has been a PSA thank you
I feel the best way to ever describe now what cultural appropriation is would be to ask someone to watch The Nightmare Before Christmas and watch how Santa Claus reacts to Jack Skellington’s version of Christmas and how Jack overall reacts and exploits the Christmas season.
Jack, having explored all aspects of his own Halloween culture, discovers a door that leads to Christmas Town. While the audience has a sense of what Christmas is about and comprehends what the symbols might mean, Jack doesn’t. He is a complete stranger in this world and attempts through nothing but visual clues and behavioral observation tries to come to an understanding of what Christmas is.
This is all good and dandy, but Jack’s actions do nothing but exploit Christmas. Jack seeks to go about and unleash his selfish desires to explore Christmas and take charge of it. His studies of Christmas do not explain why Christmas happens or what it really represents to people who are affected by Christmas because he never really takes the time to discuss Christmas with anyone affected by the holiday until Oogie Boogie nearly eats Santa Claus. Jack’s desires only exist to further what he wants to accomplish with Christmas. As a result, Christmas is not accurately represented. Dolls that are mashed with Halloween haunts and ghouls do not fuse well with the upbeat and cheery nature of Christmas. These monstrosities rather illustrate that Jack’s interpretation of Christmas is not accurate They can even destroy Christmas as seen when reporters are warning Christmas may never happen again. Ultimately, Jack acquired faulty information when he studied Christmas and unleashed a product totally not representative of what Christmas actually intended to convey.
Now Santa Claus is not downright dismissive and saying Jack can’t learn and appreciate the Christmas culture as Santa comes back with snow at the end to spread over Halloween Town. However, Santa warns Jack to leave Christmas with those who get it as he himself leaves Halloween to Jack. It is totally acceptable to appreciate cultures different from your own as long as you recognize you have no real control or influence in determining what that culture represents.
The Nightmare Before Christmas may not have intended to, but it did provide an insight into what cultural appropriation may actually be. Appropriation and appreciation are two totally different concepts and while not everyone can fully immerse themselves in some cultures, we are able to accept the snowflakes and their differences without exploiting them for our own gain.
I would like to state that I am myself an ally to many different groups or at least attempt to be one. I am not perfect in understanding cultural appropriation because I am myself an outsider looking in on others. However, from what I’ve witnessed, I feel this idea can at least shed some light on the matter and possibly could be fleshed out more by those who are affected by cultural appropriation more than myself if they so seek to discuss my views presented in this post. At any rate, I am very willing to discuss this matter if anyone would like to do so.
I found this really interesting and a great way to make a difficult and important subject matter a bit easier to understand. Very interesting choice in explaining but it definitely made sense. Good stuff.
This is the best analogy I’ve seen thus far.
(Via Slate: “One of the few British newspapers to come to Jamie Oliver’s defense this week was the Independent, whose columnist Grace Dent argued that Oliver is entitled to his arrogant opinions about poor people. Dent is right—Oliver is entitled to his opinions. But he’s not entitled to the position of culinary hero for a population he disdains.”)
What none of these people who haven’t experience poverty seem to understand is that when you are poor and you come into money, you spend it. When you don’t have enough money on a regular basis, the things that need fixing and replacing pile up. The kids need shoes and clothing because they’ve outgrown everything, the roof is leaking and needs to be fixed, the toilet is broken, the car is leaking brake fluid, your sofa is a hand me down three times over and it’s falling apart, your credit cards are all maxed out. When you’re poor, everything is about sacrifice all the time.
So you get a tax refund or win a few bucks in a lottery or you get a bonus at work, you use the money to fix a few selected things, buy the kids some clothing, and then maybe you put a tv on layaway or use your windfall to buy it or put it on credit. Because you’ve been sacrificing for years, and having one nice thing makes you and your kids feel better, even if you’re still living in poverty.
You can’t stock up on fresh vegetables for a year, after you get a big tax refund check. You can’t use a Christmas bonus to buy a year’s worth of potatoes and spinach. If the money doesn’t get spent on something nice right away, it gets spent on the backlog of necessities and then it’s gone again and you’re back to the regular routine of sacrificing.
TLDR unless you’re poor or you’ve been poor, I don’t wanna hear your opinion about poor people and tvs.
Like a lot of people with mental illness, I spend a lot of time fronting. It’s really important to me to not appear crazy, to fit in, to seem normal, to do the things “normal people” do, to blend in.
As a defense mechanism, fronting makes a lot of sense, and you hone that mechanism after years of being crazy. Fronting is what allows you to hold down a job and maintain relationships with people, it’s the thing that sometimes keeps you from falling apart. It’s the thing that allows you to have a burst of tears in the shower or behind the front seat of your car and then coolly collect yourself and stroll into a social engagement…
We are rewarded for hiding ourselves. We become the poster children for “productive” mentally ill people, because we are so organized and together. The fact that we can function, at great cost to ourselves, is used to beat up the people who cannot function.
Because unlike the people who cannot front, or who fronted too hard and fell off the cliff, we are able to “keep it together,” whatever it takes.
i am an expert at fronting. it’s a survival mechanism.
welcome to my 2012 nervous breakdown. too much putting on a good show for too long a period of time.